The other day, a close frat brother and I were engaged in a very interesting debate on the Book. (Facebook for the slow folks) It all started when he made the following status update:
If sex is designed to be done freely why is so much disaster, disease, and drama attached to it. Trust me! More men would marry if they knew that was the only way to get some. Question: Is the STI epidemic a natural occurence or a result of a rebellious people?
Every single comment agreed that it was the result of rebellious people, but where I differed from the flock was I mentioned it was from the uninformed public. This is where the sparks started to fly.
So Ant, what do you mean by uniformed public?
Well, I’m glad you asked. By uninformed public, I’m referring to the masses that grew up in areas where sex education was limited to abstinence-only. In my opinion, we’re doing our youth a disservice by sticking to an archaic form of sexual education. We live in a highly sexual society, and refusing to properly educate will only exacerbate the negative consequences.
As a Christian, I totally understand and believe that fornication is a sin. So for a devout Christian to demand an abstinence-only form of sexual education and to supplement those teachings in their home is totally understandable. But from a psychological standpoint, what happens when a child is suppressed and constantly told “NO” to something? It makes them want it even more. Don’t believe me? Well I have two words for you:
Regardless of the city or neighborhood you grew up in, you already knew who the freakiest of the freaks were. Those were the Preacher’s daughters. Why were they the freakiest? Well, because they grow up in a home where everything is highly scrutinized in an effort to ensure all members of the family are living right per the word of the God. Don’t get me wrong, a house that follows the Lord’s teachings to the T is great, but the Preacher’s Daughter can and will rebel when it comes to exploring her sexual appetite.
Still not convinced? Well let’s take a gander at some teenage pregnancy rates in the US. The top 4 states are as follows: (per 1,000)
Mississippi – 55.0
New Mexico – 52. 9
Arkansas – 52.5
Texas – 52.2
What do these states have in common? These states do not require sexual education to be taught in schools, but when it is taught, it is required that it be abstinence only.
Now let’s take a gander at the bottom of the list: (per 1,000)
New Hampshire – 15.7
Massachusetts – 17.1
Vermont – 17.9
Connecticut – 18.9
What do these states have in common? These states REQUIRE a comprehensive sexual education that includes abstinence and information on condoms and contraception.
So the proof is the pudding ladies and gents. To quell the increasing trends of STIs and teenage pregnancies our Nation is going to have to stand behind sexual education that is inclusive of all safe-sex options. At the same time, as Parents, it’s imperative to supplement that education with open conversations at home. You can’t expect your child to learn everything there is to know about sex from someone else. Being a father of an 8-year old girl, I can’t sit her and believe that she’s never going to grow up and have sex one day. Now, I would prefer she wait until she’s happily married, but I’m also a realist. I want to ensure that when my daughter makes the conscious decision to have sex, she will make sure her and her partner are well protected.
So what do you guys think? Do you think a fully comprehensive sexual education in our schools coupled with open-conversations with your children is the way to go? Or should we keep the ship steady and continue with abstinence-only education? Leave your comments below.
As always folks, stay classy.
P.S. For the guy that will eventually come to my home to date my daughter. *cocks gun* …good luck…