I got the baby mama drama
Enough to make you scream and holla
She’s tryna stick me for my dollas
Ain’t nothin’ but the baby mama drama
Dave Hollister – “Baby Mama Drama”
The other day, I stumbled across a status message from a friend of mine that mentioned the drama going on with Chris Bosh’s baby mama, Alison Mathis. Reading the heated arguments in the comments sections of the status inspired me to “go in” (as the kids say) on this subject.
If you recall during last year’s NBA Finals, Bosh wrote an e-mail to Mathis requesting to have his daughter, Trinity, so he could share the important milestone in his career with her. I can’t say I really followed what occurred, but if I recall correctly, Mathis refused his wishes and his daughter didn’t get to visit Bosh per his request.
Fast forward a year and the “baby mama drama” surfaces once again. Mathis was recently laid off from her job and has reportedly filed for food stamps. Her home is also up for foreclosure because the court ordered amount for child support wasn’t enough to cover her mortgage payments. (Bosh paid $2,600 a month in child support) Due to the unforeseen circumstances for Mathis’ employment and Bosh’s contract with Miami, Mathis’ lawyer, Jane E. Carey, is demanding Bosh’s child support to increase to $30,000 a month.
Before I go into my personal opinion on the situation and child support as a whole, I do want to give the disclaimer that I have nothing against Mathis and it’s always sad to hear someone getting laid off in this economy. Now that’s out of the way, I think her request is a pile of bulls***.
Child support should be just that. SUPPORT FOR YOUR CHILD. It doesn’t mean the Mother of the child gets to reap the benefits of being knocked up by a celebrity. Mathis lives in Dallas, so $2,600 a month is MORE than enough for any child to be well dressed, fed, educated, and have a decent roof over their head. Want proof? Well let’s do the math. Average rent in the DFW area is around $1,300. Utilities on the liberal end will probably be around $200. Food for the month, again on the liberal end, will be around $400. Cable, because I’m sure Trinity wants to watch her Dora, will be around $120. So let’s add that all up. Rent + Electricity + Cable + Food = $2,020, leaving Mathis with an extra $580 for clothes, toys, etc. for the month. So on top of the income Mathis makes, there shouldn’t be any reason Trinity isn’t well taken care of.
Let me also add, that Bosh wants to take his daughter with him to London so she can watch her Daddy play in the Olympics, but Mathis and her lawyer have denied his request stating it’s nothing but a “photo-op.” That’s wild. So you want to get broken off $30K a month, and you don’t have the decency to allow the Father of your child to have his daughter during a milestone in his life…again?! GTFOH.
Now I can probably hear what kind of arguments the readers are going to sling at me so let me be proactive and answer those immediately:
“He makes $18 Million a year. His kid has every right to live the lavish life he’s living.”
I agree with you. The child of a celebrity has every right to have the luxuries their parents have. Key word here is CHILD. The CHILD has every right, not the Mother of the child if the Mother of the child is no longer with the Father. Need I mention Mathis was NEVER his wife? She was his girlfriend.
“Shouldn’t Bosh want the best for his daughter? Does he want his daughter to receive Government assistance?”
Yes, any Father SHOULD want the best for their daughters. That being said, if this whole ordeal was JUST about Trinity, then Mathis should send Trinity to go live with Bosh until she’s fully capable of providing comfortable living for Trinity. Like you said, we want the BEST for her right? So the BEST situation is for her to live with her Father.
“Why do you think Mathis is trying to be a bitter ex, and take him for his money?”
Well, a little birdie told me that Mathis is trying to star on Basketball Wives. Why in the world would you want to be on that show other than get exposure for being a ratchet, gold digging wench? She’s trying to create a career based on the fact that she was knocked up by an NBA player. Meaning she’s going to want to live a certain “lifestyle” to match her counterparts. So where is that income going to come from? You guessed it, that $30,000 a month that is supposed to be for Trinity.
In any child support case/scenario, I think whomever is receiving financial compensation should have to show receipts as to where the money is being spent. I’m not saying ALL women (or men) receiving child support use it irresponsibly, but if the system is set up for the caregiver to reap some unnecessary benefits with no repercussion, there has to be some sort of checks and balances in place. As a matter of fact, I personally know someone who was taking care of his son financially and saw him quite often. 2 years goes by, and his baby mama decides to put him on child support. Even though he provided financial compensation on a monthly basis AND kept receipts for everything, the courts ruled that all of that money was declared “gifts to the parent” and he had to pay back-pay. Tell me that’s not some BS.
I just think it’s pretty unfair that a woman can be bitter that a guy doesn’t want to be with you anymore, and now you get to spend money designed to help you care for your child on some new shoes and pop bottles. Hence why I think the $30,000 request is just asinine. Show me some calculations where Mathis can spend $30,000 on Trinity and Trinity alone. Don’t worry, I’ll wait.
Before I go, I want to give a life-lesson to all the fellas out there. Don’t fall for the big booty and a smile in the club. If you can’t see yourself having a child by the chick, then you probably shouldn’t sleep with her. Because every time you have sex, there’s ALWAYS a chance she can get pregnant. A big booty isn’t worth getting F’d over for 18 years.
As always folks, stay classy.