Let’s say you’re in the market for a car. Nothing outlandish, I mean you ain’t Kanye are you? So you go do your research and think you know what you want. Hit the lot, and tell the dealer you’re looking for a 4 door sedan. Leather seats. Green color. Sun roof. Decent gas mileage. Not too much to ask for right? Right. Dude comes back over and tells you “Good news hip hopper, we got a 4 door sedan, leather seats, sun roof, good gas mileage. But it’s blue.”
Do you get the car or continue your search? Do you hold out for exactly what you want, or think you want, or do you figure “this is close enough” and sign the deal? At what point does settling cross over to settling down or is that just a phrase we use to convince ourselves that it’s not as bad as not getting what we want.
Generally people think they have a list of qualities they would want in a mate. If not that, then a list of “oh no nos”, a list of offenses that would immediately end a relationship with a mate because the issue was so important it couldn’t be looked past. But as time goes on, or disappointment settles in, and the list gets smaller or things don’t seem to matter as much. Is it coming to grips with reality? Realizing that you were being ridiculous? Or just settling for whatever you can get?
John Mayer has a song lyric that goes “you’re not the perfect hand but, I don’t hit on 19”. Do you hold out for blackjack or set with 19 and hope the dealer busts? Let’s discuss.
And if you aint hip to “oh no no’s” and use the outdated term “dealbreaker” watch this.