I’m fortunate enough to have never been faced with the task of approaching a woman and asking her for her phone number. Although I’m sure it is done successfully every day, I’m pretty damn sure there are way more misses than hits. Way more. Sp let’s take a further look at what doesn’t work.
Dog; The Aggressor.
Despite my nerdy hipster look, I get hit on by a lot of thuggish ruggish dudes. And I don’t mean maybe they had a rough childhood, or maybe they live on the wrong side of town. I’m talking about the aspiring rappers with the gold teeth and detailed criminal records, and refuse to use their legal name type of thugs. The scary type. Like maybe I’m the type that will make them want to settle down and live right. They are the aggressively forward ones that will follow you through the mall or whatever until you give them their number. A number. Any number. Whatever. Over aggression is just plain scary! Not to mention the tattoos on your face. I’ve seen lots of movies about prison. I know the tear drops mean something bad.
It seems as if some guys think if they cast a wider net they will catch more fish. But then what do you do with all those fish? I can remember being with a group of friends and getting the “say red” calls from guys we walk past. “You! You in the blue shirt!”. “You with the glasses!” “Say! Say! You with the wedding ring!” “Hey you on the phone let me holla atcha. Holla holla holla!” “Hey you on the phone pushing your baby in the baby stroller holding hands with your dude! Say!” You know the type. They will ask for every girl in the groups number with ease. I’m sure they do end up with a few numbers, but generally girls like a little bit of effort put in on the approach. Like yeah you really wanted to only speak with her, not just ask every friend she’s with until one of them relinquishes a number (or @twitter name, however people communicate these days).
The Shy Guy
This is the guy that gets up the nerve to strike up a small conversation. And then…nothing. Maybe they just lose the nerve to close the deal or maybe they just ran out of things to say. I’ll never know. But the conversation is chock full of awkward pauses and basically is a nuisance stopping you from whatever you were on the way to do.
So what does work? Honestly I don’t really know. The best “lines” I’ve heard weren’t even really conducive to me giving the guy my phone number. And women swear they want honesty from a guy but we all know that’s not real life. Maybe open with a realistic compliment or a simple introduction? My most memorable pick up was from a guy who just gave me a compliment in passing. And told me I was wearing my jeans well. I WAS! Thanks random guy in the Starbucks parking lot.
Guys, do you have any sure fire ways to get contact information from women? Ladies, what really impresses you when a guy wants to get to know you? Any stories of what worked? Any hilarious tales of failures?