A friend had a Facebook status the other day about girls calling their significant other “Daddy”.
I’ve never put much thought into why a girl would want to call the guy she’s sleeping with and the guy who helped create her the same thing but it was a slow day at work and I had some time to ponder, and keep up with the comments.
One idea was that it was some sort of compensation for the guy not taking responsibility of his own kids. Transference. I get that. Still doesn’t do anything to take away from the creepy factor. And why you are with a guy that isn’t taking care of his children well…
And another idea was that the women do it because they are missing a father figure in their lives. Their man has taken the place of a lover and a father all rolled into one big ball of confusion that maybe only deep psychoanalysis can fix. The things Greek tragedies are made of.
But the main consensus was that it was an ego booster for the guys. A version of “no you don’t look fat in that” or “of course I wasn’t checking out that hot chick”, but for men. And I can understand that to a point. Everyone needs a little ego stroking from time to time. But with as many folks out there with “daddy issues” (read: crazy) why is that a task someone would willingly take on? Even if a girl adores her biological father, calling her man daddy just seems like a lot of expectations being put on his shoulder. And if that’s the case how could you ever compete?
And out of all the ways in the world to have your ego stroked, how is being called Daddy one of them? Sure you can take your girl shopping and make sure she’s taken care of, but when she talks back are you going to ground her? If she doesn’t wash the dishes are you going to take back her Louis (or Coach, or Nine West, or Knockoff, or Target, or Wal-Mart, the “daddy” thing covers lots of tax brackets) bag? If she breaks curfew are you going to whoop her?
You see my problem? Someone please explain the appeal to me! Am I just not that into ego stroking and coddling? Have I been doing it wrong all these years?
Ladies, have you ever called your man Daddy? Lil Daddy? Big Poppa? Guys, have you ever requested this from your lady friends? Papi? Mr. Big? Daddy FatStacks? Any other ways you care to have your ego stroked? Talk to me.