I was reading my daily dose of blogs yesterday and I came across an article discussing Friends w/ Benefits (FwB) and exactly what type of benefits they get. I like to read something with a little sizzle every now and then so I check the article out. I be damned if I didn’t read one of the most mind boggling things I have ever heard of in my life! I mean this ish is just absurd, IMO! The question was, “should I give my FwB head?”!! WTF. Are you kidding me? Now I’m no relationship expert like my boy Caesar and I’m certainly not as in tune with the female prospective as Brebut this ish here has got to stop!! You mean to tell me that you have no qualms about letting a dude beat it up but you won’t put ya mouth on it!!
The argument was made that oral sex was more intimate than sex. I want to met the woman that perfected that game, cause you know it wasn’t a brother that came up with that theory. If you are in a FwB relationship you ain’t really worried about getting intimate. That’s the whole point; to have a smash buddy w/o all the extra that comes along with a relationship. FwB have one purpose and one purpose only, blowing out backs. This ain’t no dinner at III Forks and a stay at Hotel Za Za type relationship, it’s a eat before we meet at HoJo type deal. You are pretty much throwing intimacy out the window and inviting freakdom in the front door when you become a FwB. That being the case, how are you going to be a freak without licking the lollipop? There is nothing intimate about the act of a BJ, it’s actually sort of crass when you think about it and if not for the proliferation of pornography, they likely wouldn’t be so popular. But they are and if we just smashing you darn sure better be meeting the freak quotient. Intercourse is one of the most intimate sexual things you can do, you are merging your body (and some say your souls) with your partner with the possibility of creating a life together…..THAT’S INTIMACY FOLKS (or at least it should be).
One of the commenter’s of the post said she doesn’t “go down on FwB but expects them to go down on (her).” This is the type of ish that drives me from the window to the walls! So basically what you are saying is your nookie is Sunshine that will make a married man call home and tell his wife he ain’t coming home no more, but if a dude is going to please you he’s got to go down low. How arrogant of you?! There should be no double standards in a FwB relationship and especially not when it comes to the sex. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Hell Bun B said, “I neva fcuk a hoe with out head no mo” and he is a professor at Rice so he’s got to be brilliant, so I’m gon’ roll with Bun. Other commenter’s said it’s a trust factor. Really? You trust him enough to let him participate in a an activity that could potentially create life but not enough to tell you when he is about to cum? Let me stop. What’s your perspective? Is oral sex more intimate than traditional intercourse? Does it take more trust to perform oral?