Thirsty Thursdays will feature a closer look and analysis of a number of topics dealing with sex and relationships. Hopefully the opinions given won’t lead to the demise of too many relationships out there. Good luck.
Dating Dilemma: Unemployment
So I was out with a group of friends at a happy hour earlier this week and the subject of whether or not a woman should offer to pay or go dutch on a first date. Living in this age of equality that we’re in, I figured the consensus amongst the women would be that they would at least offer to pay half. They all said they would; however they all admitted that it’s a trap to see if the guy will insist on paying himself. Now, I’m all about some good ol chivalry. I open doors. If I see a lady carrying something, I more often than not offer to help. Sometimes it’s too hot and I don’t feel like bothering. I also have no problem paying for the first date. With that being said, n-words is broke these days. I ain’t got no job. So if she offers to pay, initially I’ll say “No. It’s ok. I got it.” But if she insists, I hit her with a Kanye shrug and happily accept her preferred method of payment. I have no problem calling her bluff.
I expected a little sympathy, thinking some broads would take it easy on a guy if he was going through some hard times, but he still wanted to date her. I got none. They said that I should save my money up until I could afford to foot the bill. Ain’t that some shit? It’s hard enough to tell a woman that you’ve recently met that you’re out of work, but I definitely don’t want to seem like the guy who lies around his apartment all day playing his PS3 and experimenting with random drugs. Besides, I use my PS3 for movies the majority of the time anyway. It would seem to be quite a discouraging scenario, but unlike some guys, I refuse to take myself out of the game.
I’ve managed to come up with a few tricks of my own to keep costs down here and there. For instance, if you’re going to ask a woman out for a drink, make sure you suggest a place where you’re cool with a bartender. Even still, sometimes it’s a tough choice in deciding whether or not to even leave the house. We have to ask ourselves, is it really worth wasting gas to meet up with someone with whom I may or may not hit it off. And I’m not sure why, but for some reason if a man invites a woman over to his place, she automatically thinks he’s just trying to GTD, which is not always necessarily the case. Probably, yes, but not always.
But I’m more interested in others’ opinions here. If unemployed, would you temporarily suspend yourself from the dating circuit? And a question just for the ladies, how much of a difference would it make to you if a guy was unemployed or not, and he asked you out. Ok, go!