Comments on: The Qualifier

By: Ryane

Ryane — Thu, 21 Jun 2012 12:04:20 +0000

Nice read. I have a very good relationship with my dad even though my parents separated when i was 5. It has gotten even better the older that i have gotten. We bond over watching the Texans games and beer! Lol Point is, he was by no means a perfect dad. Yes, he could have been around more and i used to wish my parents woukd remarry but overall, he was a good, high expectation, dad who i could make feel guilty for yelling at me for stuff. Lol! Mothers Day is for moms. Fathers Day for dads. Celebrate the holiday the best you can even if u dont feel your own dad deserves such recognition. I hate when single moms try to hijack the day. Smh

By: Brownlee

Brownlee — Tue, 19 Jun 2012 00:42:04 +0000

I wouldn’t say I have serious dad issues. Me and my dad had an off and on relationship but got real close when I moved in with him after college. I’m simply trying to be a better dad than he was to my kid and hope that’s enough. I went saw my dad at the VA Cemetery on Friday as a part of my Father’s Day weekend.

My only beef with the disclaimers is that people assume deadbeat moms don’t exist. Yall know they out there and if you don’t, it’s probably YOU! And I agree that moms shouldn’t be all “i’m the dad & the mom” on Father’s Day cuz it’s NOT the same. You’re simply a Super Mom, NOT a dad.

I had a great Father’s Day, so that’s all that matters to me

By: Ms.OhEmGee

Ms.OhEmGee — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 22:17:03 +0000

I got daddy issues…just like anyone else. We have an odd relationship (seriously, every few months/years he asks me: “am I like a dad to you? or more like a cool, rich uncle?” and I figure, if you have to ask…), but for the most part, it works. And I still wish him a happy father’s day, b/c even though I’m not a daddy’s girl (per se) and he isn’t like the dads on tv…lol, he’s *my* dad, and he’s provided, loved, supported etc.etc. (albeit, in his own weird way). Then there’s my step-dad, who dealt with me when I was a crazy little 6 or 7 year old who was convinced her parents would wind up back together and did my best to make his life hell. It didn’t work. I’m glad. lol. I spent some time with him yesterday, and it was pretty damn OSM. But, even if I wasn’t lucky enough to have these two men in my life, I know some pretty OSM men in general, and they deserve to be celebrated…without qualifiers. I don’t think qualifiers anger me as much as others (I just mostly ignore them), but I do agree that they should stop. Wish the men you know and love a happy day & keep it movin’. S/O to the deadbeats some other day. duh.Oh, I got both my dads a card. They’re so simple (my broke ass loves it)!

By: Erica

Erica — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 19:02:08 +0000

Love this……

I do not have the best relationship with my father. Right now I can say we are cool. If you say his name you won’t get much reaction out of me. I did not get him anything because I didn’t. We don’t have that type of relationship. His birthday is next month and I already have that planned out. Now I do give some credit to the mother’s who hold it down because it’s hard BUT it’s not their day. Mother’s day is and always be the bigger day….lol…So during Father’s day I took the time to send personal messages to all of the father’s are there for their families. The ones that are not there get no attention. I appreciate men that love their families. No one is perfect but as long as you keep trying you are alright by me.